Sunday, April 12, 2009

Easter Reflection

As tradition goes, Easter is a new beginning. In a way it is leaving behind all the bad habits of the past, and turn a new leaf.

My Easter reflection seems to revolve around friendship this year. I've been thinking of all the good friends I've made over the years since I was in primary school till present. I don't make friends easily. I just don't know how. But when I do, the friendships tend to last.

My primary school friendships, perhaps, were the shy, tentative types. The friends that I've known then, when they last to the present, are the type I always think as the 'have fun' one. They were fun to be with, just as what every primary school kid needed. That impression stuck :-)

Secondary school friends form another category, the 'discovery stage' friends. Most friends that last from this stage are those who once shared my discoveries about self, spirituality, politics etc. My longest, deepest friendship that is with B started from this stage. Once together in a boarding school, and on to university, we have shared a lot as best friends. Now in our own ways, the bond remains strong as ever. I'm grateful to have found such a rare friendship. I've lost contact with some friends from this 'discovery stage', but in my heart, all their wonderful qualities remain.

The university friends seem to be in the 'growing up' category. It seems to have been a stage where so much good fun was spent, so many friends met. I regret to say that I've also lost touch with so many of them.

Working life brought on another type of friendship. It is what I call the 'thick and thin' friendship. The friends I've made at this stage are indeed precious. Some started from uni days and they are even more special. At this stage, one learns that life is all about hardships and little fun, and how the hardships seem so much lighter with the presence of wonderful people who understand. At this stage, friendships naturally divided into core and periphery types. The core forms the 'thick and thin' group, people who share much more than just work problems, who know me inside and out and accept me for what I am. Those who will faithfully defend me and back me up any time. Those who will laugh and cry with me, even run away with me when I want to. I feel blessed to have these friends in my life.

Then I grew a bit more and started another type of friendship, the 'family friends' type. Separate from work, these people I found are wonderful in every way. With them I can have good times like family picnics, movies and foods, I can talk crazy or wisdom, etc. Not less precious, these are the newest friends in my life. Perhaps these people are wisdom :-) since I've known them only at the age that I should start searching for wisdom. Needless to say, I'm blessed to have met them all.

In my journey of life, people come and go. Most of them I treasure greatly. I still do.


Plain Jane on April 13, 2009 at 11:07 AM said...

I beg to differ when you say you make don't make friends easy! How can you not? You are one of the most unpretentious, humble and sweetest soul I am privileged to know and call friend! Very few of your kind walk the earth, you are rare! :-)

hope you had a good easter and stayed off those eggs!!!!

vpa73 on April 13, 2009 at 2:51 PM said...

I'm pleasantly surprised you said that! Thanks! Maybe I'm beginning to know how to make friends easy now...and that's because of friends like you who are in my 'wisdom' category ;-)

Had a good easter...and did stay away from all those tempting eggs! (How sad). Hope you had a good one too!


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