Monday, May 25, 2009

Dealing with wound (2)


The prodigal father is coming back. After 10 years. He didn't even bother to ask about his two sons before, let alone send them money. Well to be fair, maybe he did send some money for a few months. But that was it. He didn't initiate any contact with them. No words to let them know he cares. Now he is coming back, believing he is a changed man. Yup, he is a changed man judging from his speech- it was all tinted with strange twangs and accents...but other than that, I don't know what else has changed.

He is upsetting the applecart. The two sons are already comfortable living their lives without him. Now he is stirring old painful memories, opening up old wounds. Why oh why does he have to do that?

The humane side of me says it might be a necessary step to complete healing for the sons. Maybe facing him again will give them a new perspective and help them to forgive. Maybe it will give them a chance to express their long supressed emotions...

I have no right to judge the prodigal father. He might be a product of some kind of childhood abuse himself, to have caused him do what he did. But as a human being, as someone who cares deeply for the two sons, I wish he could just stay where he is...There were times in the past I wished that he was dead. I don't wish any harm on him anymore but deep down, I still can't accept what he did and what he is intending to do...

4 comments:

FL Feinier on May 25, 2009 at 10:49 AM said...

Wah, your story make me felt sad sis... Indeed, I can take in your feeling and your situation… Hopefully, God will guide you in every action and decision that you want to make… Always ask for HIS guidance, help and blessing sis… Either it is for small matter or big, tries to invite God to help you in everything that you want to do… I have this experience and God never disappoint me… Though there are thing that we ask but He didn’t give, still always, everything happen which we ask to comply with His will is far much better than what we ask to Him… then you will know that God is LOVE…

III John 1: 2 – Dear friend, I pray that you may enjoy good health and that all may go well with you, even as your soul is getting along well.

II Timothy 2: 7 – Reflect on what am saying, for the Lord will give you insight into all this.

Proverbs 3: 6 – in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.

I Peter 5: 7- Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.

Psalm 37: 5 – Commit your way to the Lord; trust in him and he will do this:

Proverbs 16: 3 - Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and he will establish your plan.

Psalm 55: 22 – Cast your cares on the Lord and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous be shaken.

Psalm 145: 17 – The Lord is righteous in all his ways and faithful in all he does.

Numbers 6: 24 – “The Lord bless you and keep you;”

vpa73 on May 25, 2009 at 3:54 PM said...

yes FL- I have to blog abou this because it really is a sad story. Thanks for your prayers and for sharing the verses. I have no say in what will happen next, because they are not my children. I can only pray because I love them very much...

Boyon on June 9, 2009 at 12:30 AM said...

Good post vpa73! God's loves us and He never leaves us...

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kombura on July 31, 2009 at 4:48 PM said...

Once upon a time, we resolve this conflict through violence. Now after 10 years, we can see this in a different view. Then the violence turns to pity.

 

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