Sunday, May 24, 2009

Dealing with wound (1)


My heart bleeds for two people that I care deeply about. When they were really young, they were victims of physical and emotional abuse from a person that they vaguely remember as their father. The younger of the two doesn't remember much. The only thing that puzzles him is why he gets a cold feet when looking at knives. He asked me tonight what happened that made him that way. Fighting tears, I told him truthfully that the person they once called Dad once too often threatened them-he, his brother, and his mother with knives. Threatened to hurt them, or even to kill them. He finally understood why and opened up- he told me how his brother told him what he remembers. Only bad memories of being beaten up and shouted at and nothing much. The younger one finally understood that his parents split for a reason that was a matter of life and death.

The brother doesn't express his feelings at all. He avoids talking and going out as much as he can. The computer is his consolation. He prefers that to socializing. He seems to want to shut everyone out which is really painful. I wish he would talk, and let go. But how do you make a 15 year old open up? He is a sensitive person, a good person basically, but a very wounded one. His surface appearance is very misleading. He looks happy and normal, and his good looks does him good. But I can feel that deep down he is a mess. How I want to pull him out of that mess. How I want to see him laugh without reservation. How I want him to be happy like he deserves to.

3 comments:

FL Feinier on May 25, 2009 at 1:00 AM said...

Hi Sis Vpa... Based on what u has written above, I can understand ur feeling and the difficulties that u had been through... I know, u didn't need any sympathy.. I do know that blogging is how u spew out ur sadness..

But, after read ur article.. Only one thing I can do for u... I will remember u in my prayer tonight... May GOD Bless U Sis... Keep Strong..

Isaiah 32: 17 – The Fruit of that righteousness will be peace; its effect will be quietness and confidence forever.

Proverbs 24: 14 – Know also that wisdom is like honey for you: If you find it, there is a future hope for you, and your hope will not be cut off.

John 14:6-Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.

Colossians 1:13-For he has rescued us from the dominion of darkness and brought us into the kingdom of the Son he loves, 14-in whom we have redemption, the forgiveness of sins.

John 14: 1 - Do not let your hearts be troubled. Trust in God, trust also in me.

Ecclesiastes 7: 14 – When the times are good, be happy; but when the times are bad, consider: God has made the one as well as the other. Therefore, you cannot discover anything about your future.

vpa73 on May 25, 2009 at 7:58 AM said...

FL- thanks a lot for the consolation. It is hard or me to see them suffer...and yes, God is the only One who can heal. healng takes time ya? Thanks for sharing those beautiful verses. od bless.

FL Feinier on May 25, 2009 at 9:52 AM said...

Yes sis... (^_^) Don’t worry sis, hardness and difficulty will make them tough... I know it’s hard for you too…
""Numbers 6:24 –"The Lord bless you and keep you;" "Deuteronomy 31:8 -"The LORD himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged""

 

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